tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post3149394310815902858..comments2023-10-01T04:20:17.423-07:00Comments on "Dying is a wild night and new road.": One Ticket Out of Stockholm, PleaseEvehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14696430167877128240noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-69259509549356151952013-09-03T16:30:14.576-07:002013-09-03T16:30:14.576-07:00I think I worry about that a lot too. It's sor...I think I worry about that a lot too. It's sort of like, what happens when I'm not uncomfortable? Would I still grow? Would I still do things? Discomfort has been what pushes me to change. Thanks for the answer. :)Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14696430167877128240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-52134406926779930632013-09-03T11:45:05.962-07:002013-09-03T11:45:05.962-07:00I'm terribly afraid of feeling satisfied, I do...I'm terribly afraid of feeling satisfied, I don't think it works. If I would be happy and content, what would follow? Where would I go if everything just felt fine? That's my answer to your question, without knowing you.<br /><br />/Avy<br /><br /><a href="http://mymotherfuckedmickjagger.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow"><b>http://mymotherfuckedmickjagger.blogspot.com</b></a><br /><br />♥AVYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01035987277042149877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-68167363200620300742013-09-02T06:50:00.897-07:002013-09-02T06:50:00.897-07:00You're right. You really are... I think I just...You're right. You really are... I think I just hate that my mixed feelings have caused a lot of animosity from Tony towards me. I guess that's my own fault, of course. I could have prevented it by just breaking it clean off. Thanks a lot Milo. I'm really hard on myself so it just makes the whole thing harder. Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14696430167877128240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-3878990529249645762013-09-02T06:48:30.007-07:002013-09-02T06:48:30.007-07:00Yah, it's kind of weird getting unused to him....Yah, it's kind of weird getting unused to him. I know it's unfair to him and I've been really trying to make a mental effort to put his happiness before mine in this case and actually use him to help me. I think I miss the good times with Tony because we were such good hang out buddies. I feel like he was my best friend but in many ways he wasn't because I couldn't rely on him for emotional support so I guess it's kind of lopsided. <br /><br />Thank you. It really means a lot. :DEvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14696430167877128240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-49089433187883920802013-09-01T09:38:42.782-07:002013-09-01T09:38:42.782-07:00If you think about it, it hasn't actually been...If you think about it, it hasn't actually been that long, so it is no surprise that you are still feeling somewhat mixed about Tony. It takes time and you can't control the speed of your healing. That said, I do think it would really help everyone in the situation - you, Tony and L if you broke all ties with Tony. I realise it seems impossible, but the hardest thing is to do it, then once you have, it is easier I promise. It won't solve everything, but that way you will all know where you stand - continuing like this is just dragging out the inevitable and hurting all of you. You just have to build up the courage. As for the rest of it - you need to go easier on yourself. You're doing your best, these situations are complicated and you've already made the brave step of getting out of the relationship, so well done for that. Much love xxxMiLohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12895069368149505421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-80684450449032339702013-09-01T06:26:05.380-07:002013-09-01T06:26:05.380-07:00It takes time to get over someone you've spent...It takes time to get over someone you've spent so much time with. You're used to Tony, and now you suddenly need to be unused to him. I do think it's a bit unfair to L, but if he's willing to help you through it, take the help. <br />Getting over someone takes a lot of time, but it's only time. Time will pass, and feelings will diminish. <br />You are being so strong, you can keep it up. And all of us will be here when you need to vent about him. Emily Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11825753991702537079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-47787856515382054952013-08-31T11:37:50.634-07:002013-08-31T11:37:50.634-07:00Haha evil superpower. It really is! I feel like fo...Haha evil superpower. It really is! I feel like for me, I see it in moments of clarity and then I'm back to doubting. It's like a cycle, you know? I think it helps that now and then I get snippets of the truth and that kind of shocks me, like hearing he was seeing some girl for months before we broke up. <br />Ok :D <br />I loves you lots too! Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14696430167877128240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-86684580286759857212013-08-31T11:36:15.375-07:002013-08-31T11:36:15.375-07:00It really is and I hate it... You almost need peop...It really is and I hate it... You almost need people to tell you what's wrong so that you can see it too. <br />Thanks love. It really means a lot! I love you oodles! Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14696430167877128240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-70607342228767174002013-08-31T11:29:50.838-07:002013-08-31T11:29:50.838-07:00Thanks. :D
Yes, and sometimes I doubt that he is....Thanks. :D<br /><br />Yes, and sometimes I doubt that he is. I feel like he doesn't even know he is all the time. <br />It's hard to deal with these issues, really. <br /><br />I love you too! <3Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14696430167877128240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-78743788947891461162013-08-31T11:29:09.602-07:002013-08-31T11:29:09.602-07:00It's hard to let him go but I know you're ...It's hard to let him go but I know you're right. It's that never seeing him again factor that totally gets me. It's just awful, in my mind. It's selfish of me for keeping him on the fence though. I just wish I could muster the strength to push him to his own side and not hurt him. Thanks girl. <3Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14696430167877128240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-47818633318781884042013-08-31T11:28:06.494-07:002013-08-31T11:28:06.494-07:00I feel like hearing this from someone that has bee...I feel like hearing this from someone that has been nearly and addict helps, especially since you're a guy as well. I don't always feel intelligent and capable to see it for what it really is. I think sometimes I just have to tell myself that's what it is. <br /><br />Thanks. :) I'll keep reminding myself of that. Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14696430167877128240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-60934714802020729782013-08-31T08:53:24.092-07:002013-08-31T08:53:24.092-07:00Oh deary, I remember those feelings. It's real...Oh deary, I remember those feelings. It's really hard to see abuse for what it is, that's why it's so damn tricky to get out of. It undermines your ability to trust your intuition. Abusers sound like everything they say is perfectly reasonable, so it throws you into confusion/guilt/doubt. That's their evil superpower. However, for me, once I was out of the relationship, it is easy to see how truely fucked up and twisted things were. You deserve so so so much better ok? Loves you! HUG HUG HUG.lilulakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07590025569327233215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-13073535510518747302013-08-30T18:32:54.409-07:002013-08-30T18:32:54.409-07:00I can relate a lot to this post, my abuse wasn'...I can relate a lot to this post, my abuse wasn't from relationships but I understand the confusion of not understanding why it is hard to let go of something so fundamentally tainted and flawed. I wish I knew how to help more, but you have my support, message any time you need to, and know we all love you to the moon and back xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-7430899654879268552013-08-30T13:06:42.635-07:002013-08-30T13:06:42.635-07:00Firstly, very clever title!
My heart aches readin...Firstly, very clever title!<br /><br />My heart aches reading this. Never doubt that your relationship with Tony was abusive. We both know how abusers work. It's hard to let go, and it'll be hard for a while. It's nothing wrong with you, it's just a very sad situation. <br /><br />I don't have any wonderful words of wisdom. I've never dealt with my own issues regarding abuse and Stockholm Syndrome, so I'm really not in a place to give advice, but please know you're in my thoughts. <br /><br />Love you dear *hugs* xxBellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07544398450025713725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-88214085094746829922013-08-30T07:05:04.007-07:002013-08-30T07:05:04.007-07:00Ryan stole my comment.
Throughout reading this pos...Ryan stole my comment.<br />Throughout reading this post, I kept thinking that it was abuse. The relationship you're in right now is a good one. In my honest opinion, I think you should let Tony go, entirely. Let him go, and let him work on being happy and okay. You work on being happy and okay, and whatever you want to work on with yourself.<br />Once you both are in a better place, maybe... maybe you can reconnect with him as friends. But you both have some healing and some living to do. Letting him go doesn't mean that you will never see him again, it just means that you're choosing to heal and to live. It was an abusive relationship, because you both were struggling. There's no denying that. You took the first step to healing, which is getting out of that relationship. L is a good thing. Now you just have to keep going. I'm always here to talk, if you want. <3 XxJ (:https://www.blogger.com/profile/16854580067069026012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8780280443552838331.post-88253205591376842242013-08-30T06:02:50.788-07:002013-08-30T06:02:50.788-07:00I'll be honest, I've known a few addict... I'll be honest, I've known a few addicts and have probably crossed that line myself once or twice, but they can be crafty, and by that I mean manipulative. Mental and emotional abuse are what they are despite what you think you may have done to deserve it.... you don't deserve it. You're obviously very intelligent and capable of seeing it for what it really is, abusive, and you said it repeatedly. <br /><br /> And finally, to answer your question, I don't think there's anything wrong with you. You're human, like the rest of us.Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05960205468517876213noreply@blogger.com